Distinguishing between tradition and traditionalism

Our son didn’t approve of the Christmas tree. It wasn’t the kind we’d always had.

It was our family tradition to get fat Christmas trees with full branches. The kind of Evergreen with long needles that fell and buried themselves into the carpet for you to find months later.

For our son, to do something two years in a row meant it was a tradition. We’d gone to the same tree lot, picking out our fresh cut tree together. Year after year.

But this year, we went rogue and our 18-year-old son wasn’t pleased.

Our first family Christmas Tree 1978
Our untraditional tree

Traditions are important. They make us feel safe. They can help us carry on beliefs and practices of people who have impacted our lives. Family traditions help us remember those who’ve gone before.

So important is a family tradition that we have two kinds of dressing at our Thanksgiving table. We open our presents Christmas day and we attend a New Year’s eve ‘watchnight’ service.

Advent calendar tree

It wasn’t until I was a young adult that our church started observing Advent. A wreath with four candles was placed in front of the church. The candles were the traditional colors of three purple and one pink. A theme was assigned to each of the four Advent Sundays.

I liked the emphasis it seemed to give to this holy season. It added to the traditional carols sung. When we became pastors I followed this traditional expression of celebration.

Every year the purple and pink candles were placed among greenery on a small table. Congregation members were assigned readings to accompany the lighting of the candles as we prepared for the coming of Emmanuel.

A few years ago I changed a few things. We went with white candles because the men we were now serving in a residential rehabilitation facility got anxious about lighting the “right” candle. I tossed out the prescribed order of themes. I place a proper long-handled lighter on the table but I’ve quit sighing in exasperation when a man flicks his Bic.

Twentieth-century scholar, Jaroslav Pelikan, describes the difference between tradition and traditionalism:

“Tradition is the living faith of the dead, traditionalism is the dead faith of the living.”

Traditionalism, he says, goes through the motions.

We want every practice we include in our worship gatherings to be that of living faith. We want to carry the traditions of Jesus as we practice inclusiveness and celebrate communion. We don’t want to be bound simply by the colors, or words or obligations. We don’t want to just go through the motions.

We reached a comprise with our son the year we broke tradition. We got two trees. The one that wasn’t traditional for our family was adorned with ornaments he’d seen all of his childhood. The tree wasn’t the same variety of evergreen, but it was filled with family memories.

8 Comments

  1. Gayl said:

    I love celebrating Advent, and we don’t always use the “right” colors either. I like the distinction between tradition and traditionalism. I want a living faith. 🙂 Blessings to you! I’m your neighbor at #CoffeeforYourHeart.

    November 29, 2017
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    • Debby Hudson said:

      Hi Gayl. Thanks for stopping by today. I think I enjoy planning our Advent celebrations more than being an observer. I get excited thinking it can be new to someone and draw them closer to God. It does make it seem to come alive.

      November 29, 2017
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  2. Annie Rim said:

    I love this, Debby! You’ve hit on such an important thing to think about, especially as we approach this season of traditions. What am I doing to observe the spirit of Christ coming? Thank you for asking this question as we enter into Advent.

    November 29, 2017
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    • Debby Hudson said:

      Annie, I’ll be emailing you soon. Busy week but I have some great photos to share with you. When I first heard this quote from Pelikan it hit me in the right way. To make worship more than going through the motions is something I think we always have to be working on. At least it is for me.

      November 29, 2017
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  3. Great quote with a powerful message. Thanks for sharing it, Debby.

    November 29, 2017
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    • Debby Hudson said:

      It’s one of my favorites Sally. Glad to share it.

      November 29, 2017
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  4. Linda Stoll said:

    I have a family member or two who MUST eat, display, and celebrate in the same way each and every year.

    I think it gives her comfort and some sense of normality and consistency in the ever changing situations that come at us all.

    Appreciate your post, friend …

    November 30, 2017
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    • Debby Hudson said:

      We do seem to be in ever-changing situations don’t we Linda? I get the need for routine and tradition. May we always celebrate the tradition that gives us the comfort and assurance of everlasting life.

      December 1, 2017
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