Welcoming Cindy Metz from Mama’s Empty Nest
Throughout all seasons of life, one aspect remains vital. Friendship. We women value it highly. Friendship, or the lack of it, profoundly affects every part of us – emotionally, spiritually, and even physically.
“Whether you are blessed with soul mates who settle into the most comfortable room inside you, or with those who walk with you just a little while, not one of these people crosses your path by chance. Each is a messenger, sent by God, to give you the wisdom, companionship, comfort, or challenge you need for a particular leg of your spiritual journey.” ~ Traci Mullins
Traveling through my sixth decade of living, I’ve paused often, as the years racked up on the measuring stick of life, to reflect on friendship and the impact it’s made in my own journey.
For each time of life, the Lord graciously provided friends who crossed my path for a reason, sometimes only for a season. Looking back, I can see clearly that God always knew exactly who I needed to be my friend just when I craved companionship most.
From childhood to college years. From career years to marriage and stay-at-home mother years. During moves from one area of the country to another. From one church family to the next. From ministry years to empty nest years. Even now I’m blessed with online blogging friendships.
For each season. A friend. For each reason. A friend. Some of those women became my lifetime friends; some only were friends for a while as time, distance, or circumstances parted us.
So another season has begun – retirement years – and I wonder what friendship will look like in this new stage of life. However, one question surfaces as I reminisce about relationships in the past and consider the future:
What kind of friend have I been to those who touched my life?
Have I truly been a good friend? Did I embrace being one who crosses another’s path for a reason, even if only for a season, to fulfill someone’s yearning for friendship? Did I touch those lives, who so blessedly impacted mine, in a providential manner?
Or have I just been a consumer friend? One who is satisfied to take what I need off the friendship shelf and use it? Or just move down the aisle to a more gratifying offer? Am I a bargain shopper in the world of friendship – looking for the best deal?
I hope not. Instead, may my offer of friendship resemble an open air marketplace. Freely and readily available to others. Offering the good fruit of encouragement and support, kind words and deeds, cheering congratulations from the sidelines when victories are won. Willingly supplying hearty meat to sustain a relationship, reaching out to those who struggle with one aspect of life or another, offering assistance, a welcoming hug, a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear and heart.
Because that constitutes a good friend. And in any season of life, possessing a true friend is like feasting on the most decadent dessert at the market. Rich. Fulfilling. Sweet.
That’s my heart’s desire and my prayer. To be a friend for all seasons to any woman – young or mature – when the Lord causes our paths to intersect. A friend to those who need an encourager, a nurturer, a listener, a word of wisdom, and a word of prayer.
A good friend. One who is caring yet discerning, empathetic yet truthful, loyal yet accountable. Because that’s what my friends have been for me.
And I love dessert.
“May we not become so busy, harried, and overcommitted that we neglect that part of our soul that is fed and sustained by friendship.” ~ Marilyn Meberg
Cindy Metz is content to enjoy rural life with her husband of almost 40 years and an assortment of wildlife critters who frequent their two acres of country bliss. Even though her nest is empty, it still resonates with joy and laughter when all her chicks come home to roost for a bit. A former English teacher, reporter/editor, crisis pregnancy center education director, and stay-at-home mom, Cindy can be found occasionally substitute teaching at a Christian academy. She spends time writing words that seem to pour out of her soul on her blog, Mama’s Empty Nest, dabbling a little in photography, and loving her new role as Nana to her sweet grand babies. Saved by grace, Cindy’s faith sustains her as she meanders through the next stage of life – retirement. Her life verse is 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18: “Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
Connect with Cindy on social media at www.mamasemptynest.wordpress.com